I don’t have kids, but I’ve recently thought how to talk to them. As a childless adult, I’ve forgotten how. I think the best approach is just to be honest and frank… about religion, politics and death.
I’d start and say, “You’re probably going to die. I mean everyone dies. In your lifetime, doctors and scientists may find a way to prolong life, stumble upon immortality, yet, even then, what we know is that means more pain from wear, tear and disease. What kind of life would you have once everyone you’ve known, your family and friends, your pets and heroes, have all passed away? You will want to die, and that is a sad state of existence. It’s often easiest to just be done with it all. Death is a blessing in disguise. But who wants to die when they are young and they have so many wants… to do, to go, to see? Live life to it’s fullest.”
“And a full life is led without fear Sure, fear is good – you don’t want to get bit by a dog (or any animal or person), you don’t want to fall and break a bone. You don’t want a life of pain, but then again, how bad could it be? There’s only one way to find out, but fear will stifle curiosity – and the pleasure of curiosity is always the one thing that will keep your will alive. Don’t be afraid.”
Fear will led to anger and guilt and convince you to believe in things that are not true. And to believe and act upon things that are not true only brings pain to others and yourself. And by yourself, I mean guilt. Guilt for things you’ve done or not done will come with you throughout life, it gets heavy as you get old.
Guilt is the one pain you want to always avoid, because it often won’t just go away. Sure, you might forget about it for awhile, but it’s still there and only grows. It’s that weight you can’t throw off in old age, especially after everyone but you have died.
Live without fear and avoid guilt… I mean, don’t just ignore it, guilt that is, kill it with kindness – love for others and yourself. Love curiosity and satisfy your cravings. Share what joys you find with others. Share the joy of a fearless life without guilt with everyone you know, because, as I’ve said, we all die and there will come a day when you don’t want to be alone.